So it’s after Christmas and you overspent, overate, and are left with massive guilt or sadness. The holidays are a time for family, friends, joy, and laughter but the aftermath can leave you with a massive holiday hangover.
I share about a Very Scary Christmas & a Crappy New Year on my podcast.
Between parties, gift exchanges, wrapping, extra expenses, and unrealistic expectations cause so much stress. Seeing the commercials and Christmas Card photos only adds to the feeling of isolation.
What stressed you out about this holiday?
- Loss of a Loved One
- Job Loss
- Toxic Relationship
Some situations are out of our control. Grieving the death of a loved one is NOT easy. It can feel like everyone in it is just going their merry little way. The world continues to turn while you’re stuck crying in your closet. This was me after leaving a toxic relationship while pregnant and with an infant.
But some we CAN control so let’s look at ways to make it a less crappy new year.
Think about the WHY behind the actions. Get to the root vs. treating the symptoms for a true holistic change. There’s often an underlying reason to many things in our life.
- Overspending – Was it out of guilt? Fear of acceptance? Showing love through gifts? Pressure from others or society?
- Overeating – Were you using food as a substitute? The temptation of sugary treats at office, parties, gifts? Skipping meals then binging on holiday foods?
- Toxic Relationship – Are you staying for fear of being alone? Scared to set and stick to healthy boundaries? Are you a people pleaser and don’t want to cause “problems”?
I’ve done all of the above at one time or another, especially around the holidays. Guilt and fear are huge motivators for not so healthy actions.
Acknowledging there’s an issue and deciding to do something about it are the first steps.
Things to do in New Year
- Set healthy boundaries for yourself and others – often we treat ourself the worst! WHY DO WE DO THAT?
- Choose to enforce those boundaries – this can be tough, especially with family members
- Start with one healthy habit to avoid getting overwhelmed and giving up
- Set a Christmas budget
- Save a little throughout the year so it’s not a big expense all at once
- Communicate expectations for gifts ahead of time without guilt
- Think of ways to show love other than gifts outside of your budget
Take time now to reflect as sometimes we get back into routine and forget about how bad the stress was. Before we know it, it’s the holidays again and we’re not prepared to handle it in a healthy way.
Here’s to a non-Scary Christmas & a less crappy New Year,
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